The Difference between Safety and Complacency

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Title: Stop Self-Sabotage. Six steps to unlock your true motivation, harness your willpower, and get out of your own way.

Author(s): Dr. Judy Ho, PHD

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The difference between complacency and safety. They are two different things. Complacency is the self-satisfaction especially when accompanied by unawareness of actual dangers or deficiencies. Safety is the condition of being safe from undergoing or causing hurt, injury or loss. I became complacent in my job because I knew it was a miserable place BUT I felt safe there. In that complacency and believing it was safe I allowed it to cause negative effects on my mental & physical health.

But still I would get up at 5am every morning and drive over an hour to a place that was slowly killing me, but somehow I felt safe in such a miserable environment. Because it was the misery I knew. To me, losing my parents is the worse thing that I will ever suffer in my life. I viewed that as a positive, since I’ve lived through that I felt some weird invincibility. I felt like I could deal with more suffering if I had deal with and survived the worst suffering to me, losing my parents.

The major changes in my life have come unexpectedly and through tragedy

But this time I had a choice. A choice, to stay or go? To be choose safety/ or complacency at my job or choose a different way? It did not happen overnight but slowly through therapy my view of the world changed from one of it’s this or that to what is this or what is that?

I was mentally caught in a fear mindset of if I don’t stay at this job, I will get into trouble, and it was difficult to see past that because I had lived in that mindset of fear for so long.

But I eventually realized there were other options. Complacency and safety caused me to have tunnel vision and it blinded me to the other options and stifled my questions. I’ve read many books about how we condition our minds and in turn the mid conditions us. Our minds can become lazy, seeking to constantly reference our current situation to something we’ve already experienced which can be both a good or bad thing

Good, in an experience that was rewarding and made us feel good

BUT

Bad, in and experience that may have caused us fear

My lens of fear skewed my view and kept me at a place of employment that was taking life from me but making me feel safe.

I'm grateful for the ability to have a renewed mind to see things different now.

Stay away from negative ppl, they have a problem for every solution.

That includes controlling your own negative thoughts that will cause your mind to think of more negative thoughts, instead trick your mind into thinking of answers.